Moving in Together

Sharing the same house or apartment together is a huge step forward for any couple. But people need to ask themselves if it is too soon and if it’s what they want. 

The move should only be for couple who are very serious about their relationship and see themselves together in the future. Living together just because your going out could complicate things because you will now have the stress of keeping up with house details among your other daily activities.

If you do choose to live with someone however, there are way to make sure you can have an easy start up and transition into a daily routine. Obviously you must make sure this is what you want. This is your first big decision together and to work together you must want the same thing. If you are happy that a move in is in the process, everything will come easier and with less stress.

As I stated before, make sure you are serious about the relationship before and before big choices like these are made. Couples going out for only 4 months probably shouldn’t be making a big jump like this. Be smart and patient. If you both care about each other a lot and neither one of sees a reason why your going to break up, then maybe it could be time to start TALKING about a move in. The hardest part about moving in together is the commitment and process of get it over with. After that there is no right way to start living as a couple in a new home although there can be tips here and there to make everything easier. But to commit to a house together means you should have already committed to each other.

Getting Back Together?

Breaking up is always hard to do, especially if the person doing the breaking up is unsure if they are making the right move. Some time apart from each other can be good at times that way you can each cool off and have time to yourself to think about what the relationship means to you. But does not being with that person make you more or less happy?

Getting back together with your ex isn’t always the easiest or smartest thing to do but there are ways to make it happen. What you need to understand the most is that the reason the break up happened is because one of you wanted more space from the other. Respect that. If you feel a mistake was made don’t rush back to your ex saying you need to get back together.

Instead be there for when they want to talk but also enjoy your single life for a bit and some time out with new people and good friends. Give it a few weeks and take some time to think it over by yourself and someone you can really trust. Even though they may not help, saying what is on your mind out loud to someone helps you understand the situation more yourself.

If you both kept in  good contact with each other over the pasing weeks and are more happy, talk with them face to face about maybe giving it another try. Admit your mistakes and why you miss them. If it doesn’t work out then perhaps you can remain friends and see if anything evolves in the future. If you both feel like the time off did you good, you may be starting your old relationship anew.

The Long Distance Relationship

A long distance relationship is something that people usualy try once. Once because they have so many problems with it and never want to try it again. There are ways to make it work if you truely want to be with someone but the thing that people need to ask themselves, “Are we going to be together at some point in the near future?”

If the answer is yes, then your long distance relationship just may work. Keeping in touch over the phone and e-mail, and traveling to see each other will only work for so long. Phone calls become boring. The same with e-mail. Although it is fun to talk, the interaction you have with another person can never be replicated. The scarce visits make you feel rushed and looking forward to the next time, while you lose the fun in the current visit.

For many women, trust becomes an issue because many of them feel men cheat most of the time since they don’t get to see each other so often. It’s a common thing for women to suspect but if it becomes the only thing you talk about on your daily calls, it may be time to end it. Why bother staying in a relationship where you are constantly being accused of cheating when you can’t even talk face to face?

If you are the type of person that likes being with you other half more then once every few weeks, then long distance relationships probably aren’t your thing. Avoid situations like these were most of them probably won’t work out anyway. You can’t have a serious relationship with someone and expect to move forward as a couple if you are struggling just to see eachother. If you aren’t there physically, you can’t fully commit.

Those Office Flings

Dating someone who works at the same place that you do is just asking for trouble. Sure, you get to see them everyday, but that isn’t always a good thing. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to be with them and it most likely will affect your job performance. There are pros as well as cons to being with a co-worker but you have to ask yourself can it turn into a bad thing for me? Several people found out that they should have stayed away from their co-workers.

 

“I dated a guy in my office for a few months last year and it just became to much of a hassle. We were both in different departments so we thought it would be ok but there were still way too many problems, a lot from work related stuff, and we just had to stop. After that it just got a little to awkward.” – Jesscia L.

“I don’t work in an office but I did date a girl at a retail store that I was at and it was great for a few weeks but eventaully it got too hard because she would always want to be together when I had work to do and she would especially get mad when I would take break with other girls from my department. She was very insecure and it really affected both of us at work. After we ended it, it was very weird between us at work. Its great to have someone you care about but I think working with them puts a strain on a relationship.” – Steve H.

These are just two of an endless number of problems that can happen while dating someone in your work place. Are there ones that work out? Of course there are but if everything goes well in those situations, you don’t have to worry about your job. The more important thing is to make sure that dating and flings do not affect job performance. If you screw up your relationship not only will you lose a girlfriend/boyfriend, your job could be on the line. So before you jump into anything at work just ask yourself is it worth it before you wind up just another example of a failed relationship on someones dating blog.

Find those great date places

A Night in Times Square

Enjoy not just one, but several of these places even just for one night in New York. All places are somewhere where you and your date can enjoy the entertainment and still interact with the person you are with.

Risking a friendship

When a very close friendship wants to be taken even further by one of the people involved, it is always a risky situation. Even though it’s something that may risk losing a good friend, in the end you have to tell the person how you feel because it will be very hard to think of “what could have been.” Man or woman, you have to be careful of when and how you bring up the conversation.

Never bring it up after someone just got out of a relationship, especially a long one or one with a very bad break up. Women might feel like men will be trying to take advantage of a situation and men may jump on the idea but most likely might not be thinking clearly. That could hurt the relationship from the start.

Try not to wait for the last minute to bring it up. If they plan on moving or going away for an extended period of time, don’t wait until right before they leave to express yourself. Just because it works in the movies doesn’t mean it will work here. There wont be enough time for you two to talk and it will leave things awkward. Even if they do say yes, then what? They wont even be around to be with.

Ease into the situation. Not matter if your a girl telling a guy or vice virsa, just make sure you understand that you could ruin a very close friendship. Never push the idea of you two going out onto the other. It will make them more nervous and akward then they already might be and the idea of you bring up being together could already be a shock for them to hear. No matter what the risk you should always tell someone how you feel. Its better to be rejected then to never know what could have been.

Why he cheats

Every woman has probably had suspicion of their boyfriend/husband cheating at least once. Its probably one of the most fought about things in a relationship, yet it continues to keep happening. It does sometimes come from jealousy as I noted earlier, but doesn’t always end up in a “nothing is happening” situation.

There are times when those guys will actually be cheating and the first question is always “why?”

Different Looks

And that could be the only reason. Simply because she’s not you. Some guys have a hard time being with one person for a long time without change. If its just physical, there is a chance you can both get past it and resolve your relationship. It doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t still care about you.

Someone else to talk to

If your relationship has been rocky lately and you aren’t addressing your problems with each other, he maybe getting his emotions out with someone else and if its another woman, it could lead to something. Men usually don’t express their emotions, especially when it comes to relationships, so if hes turning to someone else it could bring them closer. You cant always stop the fighting when your together, it will always happen no matter who it is and what its about. What you need to do is be ready when HE needs to talk.

Being restricted leads to wanting more

If you are the type of girl that doesn’t “let” your boyfriend talk or hang out with other girls, the only thing that’s going to happen, is that he will do it even more. Just because a girl hangs out with a guy doesn’t mean that anything will happen. But when he needs to sneak around you because of “rules” you’ve given him, its more then likely something happens because of this. Let him be friends with who he wants. If he truely cares, he wont allow anything to happen.

Jealousy is never healthy

Usually when people think of jealousy, they think of a crazy ex boyfriend of girlfriend who cant get over the fact that they are no longer together with someone. Jealousy begins to shows itself while two people are still in a relationship, even being the cause of a breakup. The best way to avoid this is to keep as little mystery from your partner as possible. Just because they go out with other friends and hang out with other people doesn’t mean that something is going on, or that you have any reason to get jealous.

For women, jealousy turns into accusing their man of cheating. Though they can be right, a break up is still possible because of an angry guy getting tired of not being trusted and having someone who is very jealous. As a girl, don’t me the favor and dont listen to this guyand lead your guy to become the jealous type and be lead to believe you are cheating. Why falsely lead someone to something that is not true? A relationship shouldn’t be viewed as a game because it will only cause problems for the both of you.

Lying and cheating lead to secrets which lead to the other becoming jealous and wanting answers.Both people in the relationship need to be open with each other and need to stay committed with that person.

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